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The Useful Internet: Herpes Dating Clubs
Posted by Raven on February 28th, 2007
Have herpes? Need a date? Never fear. The Internet is here.
(CNN) — When John got divorced after 12 years of marriage, he took a deep breath and launched into the dating scene.
“And wham, with my very first girlfriend, I caught herpes,” he says. “You feel betrayed and all of a sudden separated from the rest of the world. I thought at the time that the girl who gave it to me and I were the only people in the world who had it.”
But John and his date are far from alone. And the growing number of people in similar situations has created a new industry: Internet dating sites just for people with STDs. From stdmatch.netexternal link to datingwithherpes.comexternal link, Web sites abound for the infected who want to date the infected.
At least they keep their herpes to themselves using these dating services.
Even knowing when to tell a prospective boyfriend about herpes is tough. “It’s confusing, because you don’t know when the right time is to tell somebody. Should you be up front and get it over with or wait until the person develops feelings for you? It’s a big ethical problem.”
For Jennifer Nicholas, it was more than just an ethical problem. Once she told men she was dating about herpes, many ran in the opposite direction.
“One guy, I thought he was Mr. Perfect. But then when I told him that I had herpes, he said, ‘Forget my phone number, forget my address,’ and he blocked me from being able to message him on the computer,” she says.
No DUH! If some man told me he had herpes I would freakin run the other way too lady. NO THANKS. So these services for dates are a good thing. One needn’t worry about revealing little secrets when one is a member. I wonder: Do they have AIDS dating clubs too? (I’m not being sarcastic either.)
March 2nd, 2007 at 9:55 am
I don’t know about dating clubs per-se, but there’s a small group of AIDS carriers who call themselves ‘gift givers’. They find it erotic to spread the disease, so if they don’t have it they try to get it and pass it on. Some try to limit to consensually spreading, and others try to do it under the radar.
I really wish I was joking about that.
March 2nd, 2007 at 9:46 pm
I think I have heard of this before. It’s sick too. Can anyone imagine wanting to become infected with AIDS?? And for those who do, they are mentally incompetent people, that is for sure. uuugh!!
March 3rd, 2007 at 4:34 am
“I wonder: Do they have AIDS dating clubs too? (I’m not being sarcastic either.)”
Yes, there is.
http://www.livingpositive.com
March 4th, 2007 at 7:03 pm
HAVE YOU HAD THE NEW BLOOD TEST FOR HERPES? PLEASE GET THE BLOOD TEST FOR HERPES BEFORE YOU JUDGE OTHERS. MANY PEOPLE HAVE IT AND HAVE NO SYMPTOMS. CONDOMS DONT HELP. THE DISEASE IS SPREAD SKIN TO SKIN. IF YOU’VE EVER ROLLED AROUND WITH SOMEONE NAKED, GAVE OR GOT A HAND JOB, ORAL, OR TOUCHED ANOTHER PERSONS GENTIAL AREA YOU COULD HAVE PICKED IT UP AND/OR SHARED IT. YES YOU COULD BE INFECTED WITH NO SYMPTOMS WHAT SO EVER!!! THIS IS 2007 THE BLOOD TESTS CAME IN 2000 BUT THE INFORMATION THE BIG DRIVE TO MAKE THE PUBLIC AWARE IS NOT THERE! IT DEFINATELY NEEDS TO BE!
THIS IS NOT A GIFT BUT IF YOU GET IT, ITS YOURS! BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF BEFORE YOU BLAME SOMEONE ELSE AND THINK ABOUT WHERE YOU HAVE BEEN AND MOST OF ALL THINK ABOUT THE TIMES THAT YOU WERE TESTED. DID YOU SPECIFICALLY ASK FOR THE TEST FOR HERPES 1 & 2. MANY DOCTORS ARE NOT AGRESSIVE ABOUT HAVING THEIR PATIENTS TESTED. MOST OF ALL THE WORDS “TEST FOR EVERYTHING” IS VERY VAGUE. BECAUSE A DOCTOR OR MEDICAL FORM WILL ASK YOU IF YOU HAVE HAD A RASH IF YOU DONT ANSWER PROPERLY JUST BECAUSE ITS GONE YOU COULD HAVE BEEN INFECTED BUT YOU STATED NO BECAUSE THE RASH OR SORES CLEARED UP.
IF THE WAS NO SORES OR RASHES, THE DOCTOR WOULD NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO TAKE A CULTURE OF SO THAT MEANS YOU WERE NOT TESTED. MAYBE THE SORE WAS MISTAKEN FOR A PIMPLE AND IT WAS NOT TESTED BUT THAT IS THE OLD TEST WHERE A CULTURE WAS TAKEN. THE NEW TEST IS DONE THROUGH BLOOD WORK.
SO HAVE YOU HAD THE BLOOD TEST FOR HERPES IS THE REAL QUESTION!
IF YOU DONT BELIEVE ME, ASK YOUR DOCTOR TO SEE YOUR MEDICAL RECORDS AND LOOK TO SEE IF THE ORDERS SENT TO THE LAB SPECIFICALLY REQUESTED TESTING FOR HERPES. IF YOU DONT SEE IT WITH YOUR OWN EYES, THEN MORE HTAN LIKELY IT WAS NOT ORDERED.
AGAIN IVE BEEN THEN ROUTE ONLY TO FIND OUT THAT THE OTHER TESTS WERE REQUESTED BUT NOT HERPES 1 & 2.
DONT BE SO QUICK TO JUDGE BY WHAT SOMEBODY ELSE IS GOING THROUGH ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE NOT PERSONALLY LOOKED AT YOUR MEDICAL RECORDS IN THE LAST 90 DAYS. NOW IF YOU HAVE ABSTAINED FROM ALL FORMS OF SEXUAL CONTACT GOOD FOR YOU. IF NOT, THEN YOU COULD BE THE ONE PERSON OUT OF EVERY FOUR WHO IS INFECTED!
GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE!
PLEASE DONT JUDGE SOMEONE BY YOUR STANDARDS
YOUR STANDARDS COULD BE ALL SO WRONG
ESPECIALLY IF YOU DO NOT HAVE THE LATEST INFORMATION!
March 6th, 2007 at 6:49 pm
MsS it’s hard to read your comment cause you CAPPED it all.
I think most doctors would test their patients for this if they felt it was needed. Doctors aren’t dumb (well, most anyway). I would like to see your sources for this. What form of herpes are you referring to? There are over 100 varities dear. MOST will clear themselves up so you’re hyperventilating is stupid.